Senior Snippets – Care Conversations: General Guidance

A survey conducted by Home Instead revealed that many families find discussing care options challenging. 81% of people hesitate to talk about care with their parents, despite 33% expressing concern about their physical health. Sadly, this commonly leads to care being introduced later than it should, often causing Mum or Dad’s health to decline more rapidly.

Home Instead encourages people to start these conversations early to make the transition into care as smooth and stress-free as possible. It doesn’t have to be an awkward subject, and as a society, we can lift the taboo.

Here are some tips to broach the subject of care with your older loved ones:

1. Start Early

If your parents are over 70, begin observing their daily routines and any challenges they face. Casually introducing the idea of care before it becomes an immediate necessity can help make the conversation less awkward later on. By addressing potential concerns like vision issues or difficulties driving early, you create a more comfortable environment for discussion when the need for care eventually arises. This proactive approach ensures that care is introduced gradually, helping to preserve independence while easing the transition.

2. Talk It Out

Foster open dialogue about your observations, focusing on your parents’ wishes. It’s essential that Mum or Dad feels heard and has the opportunity to share their thoughts and preferences. By listening to their concerns and involving them in the decision-making process, you create a more respectful and productive conversation. Collaborate to find solutions that work for them, and use examples to illustrate your concerns without jumping to conclusions.

Think About How You Talk

Approach these conversations with respect and empathy. Treat your parents as equals and use a tone you would appreciate if the roles were reversed.

Maximise Independence

Look for solutions that support their autonomy. If they need assistance at home, consider options that allow them to continue engaging in activities they love, like cooking.

Be Aware of Changes

Monitor any shifts in behaviour or living conditions, especially after significant life events. If isolation becomes a concern, explore options for regular companionship to enhance their social engagement.